#19 Be True by Bruce Springsteen

Because of our conditioning, sometimes we put unrealistic expectations upon ourselves and our relationships. From childhood, we are filled with images of “love” as romance, adventure and passion. Girls are rescued by princes on white horses. The man is always brave and strong. The woman is in need of his protection. Together, their love defeats wickedness and they can live “happily ever after”.

When reality does not measure up to the dramas in our heads, we think it is love that has failed us. But it is not love that has failed us; we have failed ourselves. Instead of searching for and demanding something deeper and lasting, we settle for fleeting moments of romance and outward displays of affection. Romance and affection are important in a relationship as well, but they cannot be the foundation.

When, over time, those dreams fade, the one with the idealistic, culturally formed fantasies will be left feeling empty and unloved. It is not fair to put such expectations on others or ourselves. No one can live up to the script of a fairy tale cartoon prince. No one can be the flawless beauty queen created by an artist’s sketch or digital image. Trying to live up to those ideals will always leave you feeling diminished.

Taking each other as you are and demanding something real and significant holds so much more beauty and lasting promise. Just “be true” and you’ll find someone that will take you as you are now and ever after.

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